Resilience, Determination And Making Your Parents Cry
It was almost 1 year ago today that we drove our daughter to go watch her friends compete in their 1st gymnastics meet of the season. Unfortunately for her, she wouldn’t be competing as an injury forced her to miss her first full season of competition. While this could have been a devastating setback for some, we were amazed when she was back training in the gym only a couple days after getting her cast put on her arm.
It probably shouldn’t have shocked us that much as our daughter has been amazing us since she was born, but still, this level of determination and love for her sport is something I’m not sure ever I had as a child and I loved sports. I remember dropping her off at training and watching as she worked just as hard as she ever has, cast and all. I’d wonder if she felt any pain or discomfort. I’d ask leading questions, so not to make it seem like I was making a big deal out of it. “Nope, I’m fine, practice was really fun”, she would answer.
She trained and trained all year long, all while her friends competed and showed off their medals with pride, and there were a LOT of medals! Yet, she never complained. She never seemed jealous. She’d hug them and watch their competitions online when it was available and congratulate them on all their achievements. Now I’m going to be perfectly honest here. While we try our best to teach our kids good sportsmanship, I’m not sure I would have handled her situation even close to the way she did if I were put in her shoes. To say that we were proud of her would be a severe understatement.
As we geared up for this year’s competition season, I’m not going to lie, I have been extra cautious with my little jelly bean. She likes to wrestle with daddy, but I’ve had to cut back on it, just in case. There has been extra hand holding while out in public and I may be cutting the grapes a little smaller than I normally do. You can call it helicopter parenting if you’d like but selfishly, I want to see her do the thing she’s been training to do for almost 2 years now!
We were finally able to see her perform at her first ever competition this past weekend and as you can imagine, there were a lot of emotions for everyone involved, especially mom and dad. I had mentioned to someone the other day that it seems to take way less to make me cry these days as it used to, and this was no exception. I had so many favourite parts that I’d need a whole other story to cover them all. That said, at one point during her floor warm-up, she took a hard fall while attempting a move she had just recently learned. Everyone in the crowd gasped as she hit the floor, but not only did she get up smiling, she absolutely nailed the move when it mattered most and everyone gave her a huge cheer. Full disclosure, I’m tearing up again right now while writing about it.
The thing I love most about her gym is that they don’t focus on how many medals you win. They are more concerned with working hard and improving on your personal bests each time out. This was one competition none of us will soon forget. I have watched the videos of her routines over and over again, getting equally emotional every single time. We couldn’t be more proud of our little girl and the hard work she has put in to get to this point. The sky is the limit for her and we can’t wait to see what she has in store for us next, even though I may have suffered a mild heart attack during every single event last weekend…
My daughter did gymnastics and even competed for a while. She was splitting her attention and training between gymnastics and Irish dance and eventually decided to drop gymnastics and focus on dance. That was a couple of years ago. I am really enjoying the time we have together at her dance competitions, it’s a real bonding time, but I still after all these years determining if her feet were “turned out” enough or if the various steps for the various dances were done correctly. Gymnastics I understood much more readily, easier to decipher and give feedback. There are times that I miss it.
Haha, I don’t dare give feedback about actual gymnastics, opting more for talking about imagery and lifestyle maintenance.
I love how proud you are! Your daughter sounds amazing. I must admit that mine wouldn’t have been so gracious. Not that she isn’t amazing too – she is – but she gets upset when things aren’t working for her. She hates making mistakes or missing out on something and it would have made her sad (and possibly/probably/definitely a little bitter). I’m still incredibly proud of her, she is a straight A student, in the honours program in her high school and is quite an artist and believe me, we have no idea where it comes from, lol. She blows me away! But, as proud as I am, and as much as I love her (she’s my heart), I know that her perfectionism is a problem at times. You’ve certainly done something very right! Kudos to you!!!
If you told me one of my kids would be a straight A high school student, I would jump for joy!
Anyone who can get themselves up, dust themselves off and continue on will succeed in life. Great attitude! You have a right to be proud of her.
Thanks! Not sure where she gets it from but I’ll definitely take credit 😀